January 1, 2025

In this fast-paced digital age, where our phones are practically glued to our hands, let’s take a moment to reflect on something close to our hearts: how does all this screen time impact our children? Research offers some eye-opening insights into how our digital habits can affect their emotional well-being, behavior, and growth.

When we’re absorbed in our phones, we often miss those little but meaningful moments that strengthen our bond with our kids. Think about the joy in their eyes when you truly listen to their stories or the pride they feel when you catch their gaze during sports practice. These small gestures—things we might overlook—are the building blocks of trust, love, and connection.

The Magic of Connection Children thrive on connection. When we’re fully present, we tell them, you are loved, you are seen, and you matter. But when our attention is divided, it can create a sense of emotional distance. Studies confirm this. In fact, a 2021 study in Pediatric Research highlights that “technoference”—those interruptions caused by our phones—has been linked to more tantrums, defiance, and attention-seeking behaviors in children.

Our Kids Are Watching Kids learn more from what we do than what we say. When they see us constantly scrolling, they’re likely to follow suit. A report by the Kaiser Family Foundation reveals that children aged 8 to 18 spend an average of 7.5 hours a day on entertainment media—a habit often influenced by what they observe at home. Excessive screen time is associated with poor sleep, reduced physical activity, and delayed social and emotional development.

Quality Over Quantity Let’s be real—no mom has endless hours to spend with her kids every day. But here’s the good news: even short, meaningful moments can make a world of difference. A 2022 study in the Journal of Child and Family Studies found that focused, intentional time—whether it’s talking, playing a quick game, or reading together—can have a lasting impact on a child’s emotional health and resilience.

Small Changes, Big Wins What can we do to be more present? Start with these simple steps:

• Create phone-free zones, like during family meals or bedtime routines.
• Plan a daily “tech timeout” where everyone in the family puts their devices away and engages together.
• Use features on your phone to silence notifications while you’re spending time with your children.

Choosing presence over screens isn’t easy, especially with everything vying for our attention. But remember, the moments we share with our children today will become the memories they hold onto tomorrow. Let’s cherish them, for they are fleeting.

Motherhood isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up in the best way we can. By putting down our phones and truly seeing, hearing, and connecting with our kids, we’re creating a foundation of love and security that will carry them through life.

You’ve got this, moms. And just so you know, those little ones think the world of you.